Author & Researcher (Family Dynamics) – Suni

Describe your job in couple of sentences:

I remove what stands between families and creating the healthiest and happiest family dynamic possible, in other words I am an expert in removing parenting problems.

Did you go to university, go straight into the workforce or do an apprenticeship?

I finished high school and gave the University of Life a go. I moved from México to the USA where I worked for a non-profit organization and held various event, production and leadership roles.

During those four years, I lived in San Francisco for a few months, and in India for 5 months, where I met my now husband.

We moved to Sydney when I was 23 and worked as a babysitter and as PA for an executive coaching institute, where during quite times I devoured books on family dynamics, family structure, emotional intelligence, parenting and society, while I was also studying Fashion Design.

When I finished my Certificate IV in Fashion Design I went to Mexico to research the industry there and start my label. I also decided I wanted to become a mum after not wanting to be a mum for years! I took a full year to be full time mum and my life completely changed.

I studied early child development independently (as in, I would go to the library and spend hours there while observing my first child, then my second child).

After a few years, psychologist friends, teacher friends, parent friends were asking for my advice on all things parenting and children and I decided to embrace it, to own, to claim it and make it official.
I wrote a series of four parenting books using Fashion analogies – the first one has been published and became Top 5 in Family Health in Australia. It is about to be translated into Spanish. The other 3 books will be published eventually, and for now are being used to create online courses.

I am also studying, in my 2nd year of Psychological Sciences, and I my goal is to publish in scientific papers about family dynamics, parent-child relationship and children development.

I’m fascinated by Quantum Physics and spirituality too and bring that to my work.

Have you done other jobs in your life – if so what were they
Did they have any influence on what you do now?

I also worked in the Film Industry doing production and casting and that’s being incredibly useful now too as I film my online courses.

My natural organizational skills have served me throughout my life and in all my jobs.

How did you find out about your job (how it existed)?

Great question! I don’t think I even knew that was a job! I guess as I kept on studying independently I found out other people do what I do, though I had never liked the title ‘parent educator’ which is why I wanted to create my own version that felt interesting and genuine to me.

How did you get the job you wanted- steps and process?

I created it and I continue to create and evolve with it. Also, realizing what I love and what I don’t love.
I love the writing part of it and connecting dots and coming up with theories. I love giving parents practical tools and strategies, I am a visionary – and like to have big impact (one to many vs one to one)

The other jobs e.g. the film industry I got by calling production managers and asking them to give me a chance. I called a few! (a lot!) and one offered me to join a commercial shoot as an ‘attachment’. After that job, he offered me another one on the spot – paid! I worked in the film industry for 2 years of so as a freelance. Once people know you, and like your job, they keep booking you. I was very busy. My last official job was working in the Visual Effects department of the movie Superman Returns.

Long hours, really full on. Loved it but knew it wasn’t what I was meant to do for too long.

What qualities do you need to have to be successful in your field?

I don’t know if in my field in general, but because I am creating a different parenting paradigm, it has served me to have an inquisitive mind, organizational skills, not being afraid of going against the status quo, observe, observe, observe, remove myself from the situation and try to see things as objectively as possible. Question, question, question, redefine concepts. Have clarity and being aligned with my values and purpose. Passion! And knowing the worth and value of my work, my knowledge and expertise.

Give 3 tips for someone hoping to follow in your footsteps:

1. Take some time to get clear on, and write down, what truly lights you up. For a while I was doing things because others were telling me I was good at it (and I was! E.g. being a producer, but that didn’t light me up)

2. Find a mentor on what is a bit more challenging for you. For me this was the business side of things. I’m great at what I do and I’m passionate but have had help in putting it all together and how to build it. Also, someone you resonate with and that ‘gets you’

3. Do your inner work. When I am helping other people, I need to be so aligned and centered. I need to continue looking after myself (meditation) and transcending my limiting beliefs. Always evolving.

Who inspires you?:

– Melati and Isabel Wijsen, two sisters from the Indonesian island of Bali, are campaigning to ban plastic bags locally and reduce the impact of plastic waste globally

– Ronni Kahn CEO & Founder of OzHarvest, driven by a passion to make a difference and stop good food going to waste; she started with one van in Sydney

– Princess Mary of Denmark

– Dr. Joe Dispenza

– My two beautiful boys